From Eros the Bittersweet by Anne Carson
"I would like to grasp why it is that these two activities, falling in love and coming to know, make me feel genuinely alive. There is something like an electrification in them. They are not like anything else, but they are like each other. How? ...They have at their core the same delight, that of reaching, and entail the same pain, that of falling short or being deficient...Both mind and wooer reach out from what is known and actual to something different, possibly better, desired. Something else. Think about what that feels like. "
Reach, love, learn, (fall)...reach again. Ah yes, that is the essence of life.